Bloo Advice on Friends
Question: My whole friend group is starting split up. Three parts of the group are always in different locations at lunch. I’m still friends with everyone, but I don’t know how to keep my friendships with everyone when all I have is lunch to socialize. What should I do?
Answer: I’m currently going through the same thing but I’m starting to find a way to keep all my friends. What I do is I try to alternate between all parts of the friend group I’m in. At lunch, I go to one part of the group and then the next lunch I go to the other group. Sometimes I even go to both groups during the same lunch. What you shouldn’t do is force all the part of the group to be together. Sometimes people in your group might be having a fallout with other people in the group and forcing them together might grow the fallout even more. There’s also people in the group who might want to be alone because of personal problems they’re going through. The only other option left is getting rid of one part of the group. There are times where we have to give up friends enable to be less stressed or they might be really bad friends. In the end, whichever option you choose, remember not anyone or yourself for the group splitting apart. These things are natural and are a part of growing up and becoming who you want to be.
Question 2: I’ve been having problems with one of my friends. My friend is constantly being rude and not thinking about what effect her words are having on people. They seem to be acting this way towards other people in my friend group as well but mostly towards me.She’s also keeping a lot of my friends to herself and keeps taking them away from me when I’m talking to them. What Should I do?
Answer: Myself and my friend have been going through a similar thing, but for me personally, it isn’t to that extent. My best word of advice to talk things out with the friend you’ve been having issues with. Talking things out is the number one solution to solving problems with certain people you know. Talking gives you the other perspective of the person and with that knowledge, you can know how to prevent this in the future. If your friend is acting this way towards a majority of your friend group, try to give an intermission. Your friend might not realize what they are doing wrong and my think that you might be overreacting if you're the only person with this problem. Having a group of people with the same problem will show your friend indefinitely that they’re doing something wrong and that maybe they might try acting differently. If you’ve tried this and they’ve still been acting this way for about two to three months, it’s sadly time you sink the friendship. Sometimes people aren’t the way you think they might be and sometimes, they could be even worse when time goes on. The best thing you can do is to split up because they might never change and them acting this way might hurt you or waste your time in the long run. Getting rid of terrible people even if they’re your friends is hard but is extremely beneficial in the end.
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